Feeling fearful is natural. Our bodies are designed to recognize fear and move away from anything that seems to be a threat. Being afraid of things such as lions, bears, falling off a cliff, or a tragic accident, are all real and are probably things we should be careful of, in order to survive.
But… are you letting fear hold you back from moving forward in your business? Are you letting your fears keep you from reaching the big goals and dreams you have for yourself?
So many women answer “YES” when asked. They are afraid of failure, being ridiculed or what others may think, and so they don’t step out of their comfort zone.
Although I’ve always been an extrovert, it doesn’t mean I was never scared to try anything new. It just meant it was easier for me to talk to people and put myself out there.
In my 20+ years of mentoring and teaching, there are some techniques I’ve used that I’d like to share:
- Stop making things up. We have all done this! We call or text someone and they don’t return our call or text for a day or two. We start to think “she’s mad at me” or “why doesn’t she like me?” A couple of days later, when she does call, she tells you that she was out of town on a trip or busy with the kids. We make up stories in our head when we don’t know what’s going on, and unfortunately, our minds always go negative first. Stop making those stories up and just let it go.
- Visualize the outcome you want. I never allow the word “can’t” to be used during my martial arts classes. I’m a firm believer that when you tell yourself you cannot do something, you’re right, you can’t. To prepare yourself for what you want the outcome to be, close your eyes and visualize the entire scenario in your head. Then, when you begin to perform, you’ve already been there and know what to do and what the outcome will be. It’s like writing a script for your brain.
- Get excited. Did you know that fear and excitement have the same physical effects in the body? Science has actually proven this. When you’re about to do something that scares you, just turn it into excitement instead. Remember that there is a reason you decided to do something in the first place, so get excited that you are finally getting to do it!
- Practice! Just like riding a bike, the more you practice the easier it gets. One of my mentors once told me, I should spend more time preparing and practicing for a presentation then I do giving it. His ratio was 3:1. Three hours of prep time for every one hour of presentation time. This means when I’m preparing for a one hour presentation, I usually have at least 3 hours invested in the preparation. This includes time to create and time to practice in front of a mirror or on video, so I can review it.
Using these techniques will not remove all the fear. I still get butterflies before doing a live presentation. Isn’t that part of the fun in life? If everything we did were easy, then what would be the challenge, and what would you have to be proud of?
Stop holding yourself back and get out of your comfort zone today! You’ll be so glad you did!
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